In the so called modern societies, we are too used to the feary reasoning that only or the best way for being parents is within a couple of exclusive lovers, either being heterosexual or homosexual. In less modern societies love comes as a result of having agreed to raise a confidence in a couple and-or a family together. If we are to say that first option is the good one, we are forgetting all the painful break ups of couple in this so called modern society. If we are too say the second one is the good one, we are neither more right, since a couple or a family is one of the acts that most needs the mysticism of «loving another person» to make it happen and having a full and deep sense of living that we all pursue.
In the eyes of a child, (s)he wants to know who are his-her biological parents, but (s)he basically cares more about being cared and loved by many people. The kid prefers to be with different people for (s)he not getting bored so quickly playing and learning with the same ones all the time.
Many existant childs that are orphans, or grown with the help of fiancees from a friendly divorced or completely broken up couple are anyway happy. Don’t or shouldn’t these type of childs call their best adult friends as daddy or mummy even not being their biological ancestors?
And what a girl that for deciding to be a mother wants to get assurance from further assistance she will have either from their own lineaged family members or friends in the growing up of a child? Shouldn’t more clear information about it help them in making a more clear decission for setting up a plan for bringing a new child to life?
And bringing this issue further, can’t any adult find a yet unknown person who is a very good match for him or her based in their parenting views?
Is this, has not been this the basic information we have been dealing with each other since we were plants and animals? If us humans are not much different in this sense, why we don’t share more this information wit our couple or other firends since this way we will get the more (or one of the most) precise data about compatibility between each other? One could say here that the girl has the power of hiding information about who she wants to be pregnant from, and the guy has the power of faking his commit to attention after leaving her pregnant. So why not we decide to play less power games and look for a braver, deeper more meaningful love by showing our hidden cards?
Why do we do crowdfunding for projected material resources but we don’t do it for the most valueable matter (a child..)?
The crime is not at declaring your needs or commits to start a project of care, cute, love, raise, feed, entertain that is more useful to manage it very collaboratively. It is not a pitty for a guy to say he wants to be only 10% father of a child, nor for a woman to say she doesn’t want the biological father to be her fiancee. The pitty is that crowdparenting is more normalized than crowdfunding, but we still didn’t get to do it as normalized as we do crowdfundings.
The CrowdParenting model is an easy form to fill up for declaring the responsability anyone is ready to accept for the parenting of a child, whether it being already here, or for bringing new childs to life.
Within the CrowdParenting model, once you have filled the form with such information, you should be able to gather additional help for your parenting in form of notifications, up to schedule a meeting with unknown people once your estated thresholds are met.
We should altogether link with the practices of organizations that offer the receiving of orphans, and provide specific strategical materials that could convince parents to promote the shared care of their children as well as help for couples who want to test or more seriously try this way of parenting.